Back in 2010, Drake released a joint called “I get lonely, too.” And when I tell you it resonated, yoooo….
I used to listen to it on repeat for at least 30 minutes of my 90-minute commute back in 2013.
The song resonates for many reasons, but the primary alignment comes from the fact that this is Drake’s song. This is some insanely popular celebrity (maybe slightly less popular at the time of its release, but whatever) openly stating that he gets lonely.
Some days (like the morning I wrote this), I’m overwhelmed with loneliness. Here I am — excelling professionally, raising an amazing child and growing a dope podcast, but I feel lonely AF.
I don’t feel like I have five people I can call at the drop of a dime when I need them. I have very few friends who are consistent and/or available. I don’t get to partake in brunch and other shenanigans like I did in New York. People are flaky. Phone conversations are few. And sometimes, I feel like I have no one.
And honestly, all of that is okay.
It’s a well-known fact that we, as humans, inevitably need people, or at least we will, in some capacity, at some point. However, a lesser-known fact is that loneliness is normal, healthy and part of the growth process/this thing called life.
You have to learn what loneliness is to understand why it bothers you, if it bothers you, etc. You also have to learn to be alone with yourself and/or kind to yourself when alone.
Too often, we’re quick to cast aside our feelings of loneliness, or quick to find someone to fill the lonely void, but we don’t really assess how, specifically, loneliness makes us feel (aside from lonely, obviously) and why it makes us feel that way.
We don’t recognize our loneliest moments as moments for introspection or, better yet, moments to learn more about ourselves.
So, if you’re like Aubrey and me, and you get lonely, too, know that it’s good for you. And work to pinpoint why it makes you uncomfortable and what you need to do to feel comfortable with it.
I get lonely, too. You gon’ be aight.